SON IS A GREAT TEACHER OF A FATHER
I'm very happy to be talking to you all through this medium. It's a great way to use technology. We must utilize this to spread divinity.
I want to congratulate you all for the success with the monsoon visualization. But do not stop now. Continue that exercise after meditation for some weeks. (read the visualization method from Babaji) The success of a healthy monsoon will be a proof of the infinite power of materialization you have in you. BLESS YOU!
I want to share with you all today how relationships driven out of sheer love become best teachers of vital lessons in life. I remember the time when Ishan was a toddler, a small child and had barely learnt how to walk and talk. So once, Guru Ma and I had an argument when a little Ishan interrupted us, with tears rolling down his cheeks and said
लड़ाई नहीं करनी होती प्यार करना होता है| इतनी सी बात समझ नहीं आई?
These simplistic but honest lines really touched my heart and these innocent yet powerful words of Ishan struck a chord with Guru Ma also.
I picked Ishan up, cuddled him, loved him and said I'm sorry dear son.
And a few years after this touching experience, I was thinking that if we count the years in our life, we will find that so many years we spend sleeping, travelling, eating, excreting, bathing, working, walking, watching TV and in many other such daily activities. Each day we spend some time in these activities and by the time of our death, the total time spent on these activities runs in years.
If we sum up the hours of our lives, we will find that we only have 5-6 hours with us, which we get to spend in togetherness with our family and experience unconditional love. And even these many years that we get to spend with our family, (around half an hour daily, or may be even more or may be even less as the case may be) we spend in fighting. Every evening, we return home and give a piece of mind to our near and dear ones instead of sharing a slice of our lives with them.
It is here that a small Ishan's words of लड़ाई नहीं करनी होती प्यार करना होता है| इतनी सी बात समझ नहीं आई? strike my mind.
I want to tell you Shiv Yog sadhaks, there is very less time with us to give love and receive love. We must not waste it in quarrelling over petty issues.
Every time sadhaks tell me of disputes in their families, I repeat Ishan's words in an indirect manner. Baby Ishan's words also led me to develop the bhajan 'Ae Din bandeya'. So when we sing this today, the inspiration is the baby Ishan.
I get so many requests everywhere I go, telling me that "Oh Baba ji I have so many unresolved issues with XYZ in my family".I have only one thing to tell them as the perfect solution - JUST GIVE LOVE.Then they tell me, "But Baba ji XYZ throws tantrums. What to do then?"I have only one thing to tell them as the perfect solution - JUST GIVE LOVE.Then they tell me, "But XYZ has views counter to mine. XYZ always indulges in disagreement."I have only one thing to tell them as the perfect solution - JUST GIVE LOVE.But then they tell me, "But Baba ji XYZ is disobedient. XYZ never listens to my orders."I have only one thing to tell them as the perfect solution - JUST GIVE LOVE.Again they tell me, "But Baba ji the youngster gets angry and rebellious, the in-law is uncooperative, the husband criticizes, the wife suspects and on and on and on"I have only one thing to tell them as the perfect solution - JUST GIVE LOVE. Because this is the only solution I know and this is the solution which is the most effective.
In another instance, a few years later Ishan, a little older now, was scanning me with X-ray eyes as I was sharing this teaching of unconditional love with some sadhaks.
Later in the day, after that session with the sadhaks, Ishan started arguing with me on some issue. He completed his argument with:"Come on tell me what you want to say?"
I felt angry as to how did he speak to me like this?
And the innocent boy Ishan reminded me: "JUST GIVE LOVE".
So this is how unconditional love fostered the relationship between me and my son. Ishan has taught me all the teachings of Shiv Yog in the most practical way.
And to continue the story, after Ishan's reminder of "JUST GIVE LOVE", I shared an affectionate moment and a good laugh with him. Guru Ma scolded Ishan for talking to his father like that but I sprung to his defence, saying he became a medium to instill in me this beautiful teaching.
Thus, my son has always been a great motivator to me. He has unconditionally loved me, appreciated the noble work, my sadhna and every good deed. His words have kept me going from strength to strength.
Whenever I have been a little lazy or even a little careless, Ishan ji has been like a shadow, an alter ego, as if telling me every time - "FATHER I ALWAYS APPRECIATE WHEN YOU DO GOOD DEEDS. YOU ALWAYS MOTIVATE ME."
After such memorable and life-changing incidents, the spark that I saw in him, I taught him a lot.
Why I share with you such a long letter is that these are some of the practical experiences from my own life which I want you to know. Because I want you to understand that your family members too are here with you to give and receive love. They are here to help you grow. Don't see the wrong side of incidents. The lessons from those incidents must be your only focus.
To succeed in every situation of family life, you have to practice
1) Just giving love and receiving love.
2) Doing good deeds together.
3) Moving together on the path of ascension and helping each other grow in every way.
I want all Shiv Yogis to relish family bonds because they are the greatest teachers of spiritual tenets. Your family can teach you what rituals cannot.
all have so much to teach us. We must cherish these relationships and spend quality time each day to nurture them.
I'm showing you the path which I treaded. And I want you to benefit in the same way as I did. Many of the teachings that I speak of today are an outcome of a father-son relationship.
So, pledge right now never to waste your time in trivial fights, digging up petty issues, pointing out fingers, playing blame game and doing anything which unnerves any member of your family.
From today, a new mantra I give to you all - "JUST GIVE LOVE". And don't just chant this mantra. Practice giving love to master it.
Finally, more than running after powers and Siddhis, what will lead you to ascension is following every relationship with the bolster of unconditional love. And one fine day you will realize that you have become one with the universe. The stage of